I want to compare three definitions for an action $G\times X\to X$ to be proper:
- For each $x\in X$, there is a neighborhood $U\subseteq X$ such that $gU\cap U=\emptyset$ for all but finitely many $g\in G$.
- For each $x,x'\in X$, there are neighborhoods $U,U'\subseteq X$ such that $gU\cap U'=\emptyset$ for all but finitely many $g\in G$.
- For each compact subset $K\subseteq X$, we have $gK\cap K=\emptyset$ for all but finitely many $g\in G$.
The equivalence of (2) and (3) holds for locally compact $X$, see e.g. Lee's Introduction into topological manifolds. However, I don't see if the first definition is equivalent to the other ones and under which conditions ($X$ hausdorff?). Obviously, (2) implies (1). I think I could show the converse if I knew that $$\{(x,gx);\,x\in X\text{ and }g\in G\}\subseteq X\times X$$ is closed if (1) holds. Is this clear?