These questions are sort of preliminary questions and reference requests for a project I am doing.
Lets say, for concreteness, that $R$ is a set of words in the free group of rank two and that $\langle a,b \mid R \rangle$ is the trivial group. How "bad" can $R$ be? I guess my ideal "bad" is that $R$ is infinite and if $\varnothing \neq T \subseteq R $, then $\langle a,b \mid R \setminus T \rangle$ is not the trivial group. Also how would one go about finding/constructing these "bad" $R$, maybe for finitely generated group in general.
I guess a more general question: Let $R_{\text {fam}}$ be a countable family of disjoint sets of words in the free group generated by the set $S$ such that $\langle S \mid \cup R_{\text{fam}} \rangle $ is the trivial group; How "bad" can $R_{\text{fam}}$ be? The "bad" here is essentially the same except looking at $\cup (R_{\text{fam}}\setminus T)$ where $T$ is some non empty subset of $R_\text{fam}$.
I am mostly looking for an answer to the specific example and references for these sorts of questions. There are plenty of variations, maybe looking at finite $\langle S|R \rangle$ and looking at how bad that $R$ can get, also looking at "preloaded" $R$, that is $R$ has to have certain relations.