The answer to your first question is yes: $\{(\leftarrow,0),(0,\to)\}$ is a clopen partition of the irrationals, and its existence shows that they are not connected.
$\Bbb R^2\setminus\Bbb Q^2$, on the other hand, is connected, and even path connected: you can get from any point of it to any other point along a path lying entirely within $\Bbb R^2\setminus\Bbb Q^2$. In fact, you can do it along straight line segments, using at most three of them; just make sure that each horizontal segment lies on a line $y=a$ with irrational $a$, and each vertical segment lies on a line $x=a$ with irrational $a$. See if you can work out the details for yourself; I’ve written them up below and left them spoiler-protected.
Suppose that $\langle a_,b\rangle$ is a point with at least one irrational coordinate. Without loss of generality let $a$ be irrational. Let $\langle c,d\rangle$ be any other point with at least one coordinate irrational. If $d$ is irrational, you can travel along the line $x=a$ to the point $\langle a,d\rangle$, and then travel along the line $y=d$ to $\langle c,d\rangle$; this path lies entirely in $\Bbb R^2\setminus\Bbb Q^2$. If $c$ is irrational, travel along the line $x=a$ to any $\langle a,u\rangle$ with irrational $u$, then along $y=u$ to the point $\langle c,u\rangle$, and finally along the line $x=c$ to the point $\langle c,d\rangle$; again the path lies entirely in $\Bbb R^2\setminus\Bbb Q^2$.