I have been learning about tensors, and I understand about creating the Jacobian matrix to obtain the coordinate transformation for infinitesimals, so that we have $$d\bar{x}^j=\frac{\partial \bar{x}^j }{\partial x^h}dx^h$$
So the transformation from polar coordinates to Cartesian is: $$ dx = dr \cos \theta - \sin \theta d\theta $$ $$ dy=dr\sin\theta +r\sin\theta d\theta $$
I can understand that (I think!), but my problem is that several of the books I have read say things like "a vector transforms like coordinate differentials", and include statements such as $$\bar{V}^j=\frac{\partial \bar{x}^j }{\partial x^h}V^h$$
and then they usually show examples of transforming a vector from one Cartesian to a different Cartesian, where it's easy because the basis vectors are constant throughout space (eg the standard Lorentz transformation). But I have never seen any examples showing the transformation for Polar to Cartesian. What's more, it doesn't make sense to me that vectors would transform like this for Polars unless they were infinitesimals anyway, because the transformation isn't linear.
Could someone please provide an example of transforming a vector from Polar coordinates to Cartesian coordinates using the above two equations? Or tell me where my thought processes have let me down?
Edit: I'm sorry, but I haven't been clear. I'm currently reading Schutz General Relativity 3rd edition, and he quotes the polar-to-cartesian transformation I use above (admittedly he uses the inverse), and he explicitly says the equations are "valid to first order". He then goes on to use the tensor expression I have quoted above and says, "a vector can be defined as an object whose components transform according to [this expression]". So my naive reading of that was that the transformation only applies to first order. But forget about that. I feel that if my request (below) is answered then I will understand.
I understand how the expressions that @KurtG provides are derived, and I have moved on to the curvature tensor, the Einstein field equations, etc, but someone asked me about transformations and I realised I couldn't explain this part. I need to see an actual example of a transformation using actual numbers. Take a vector in polar coordinates, tell me its components, show it in a diagram, and then transform it to Cartesian using the expressions above, so that I can see the vector is the same but the components have changed.
