What is a normal subgroup? I have heard all of the following:
A subgroup $N$ of $G$ is normal if $gNg^{-1} = N$ for all $g \in G$. Or equivalently, a subgroup is normal if it is invariant under conjugation by elements of $G$, that is, if $gng^{-1} \in N$ for all $n \in N$ and $g \in G$.
A subgroup is normal if it is preserved under "change of vantage point" [1]. I have also seen it described as: A subgroup is normal when it is "relativistically invariant" [2].
Normal subgroups are those subgroups that are kernels of homomorphisms.
Normal subgroups are those subgroups that you can create a quotient group with.
A subgroup is normal if every left coset equals the corresponding right coset.
Now, this is all very interesting and I have read proofs of why some of these statements are equivalent, but I still don't have the "big picture" and "intuition" of why all these statements are basically describing the same thing. [Feel free to correct me if I've misunderstood/mischaracterized some of the statements or equivalences.] I look at these statements and I think, "that's all really cool, but can I (quickly) see why?"
I am hoping for anyone to provide some clear, intuitive, and simple reasoning (and preferably also some "big picture"/high-level overview) as to why each statement is essentially equivalent to the others.
For example, why should "invariant under conjugation" be equivalent to "kernel of a homomorphism"? What does "preserved under change of vantage point" or "relativistically invariant" mean specifically, and what, say, does this have to do with the formation of quotient groups?
Sources:
[1] https://math.ucr.edu/home/baez/normal.html
[2] See Per Vognsen's answer in https://mathoverflow.net/questions/38639/thinking-and-explaining, in quoting V.I. Arnold.