Let $A$ be a Dedekind domain with fraction field $K$, $L/K$ be a finite separable extension and $B$ be the integral closure of $A$ in $L$, which is also a Dedekind domain. Assume all residue extensions are separable, e.g. if $A=\mathbb{Z}$.
Let $\delta_{L/K}$ be the different ideal, which is the inverse fractional ideal of the trace-dual of $B$. We can compute the different as the annihilator of the module of Kähler differentials of $B$ over $A$. So the zero locus of the different ideal is the set of points on which the Kähler differentials vanish.
But we also know that those primes are the primes that are ramified over some prime in $A$. And if we draw $\operatorname{Spec}(A)$ as a horizontal line (call it $x$-axis) and project down the regular curve $\operatorname{Spec}(B)$, those primes are the points with vertical on which the curve has vertical slope. "The $x$-coordinate of the tangent vector vanishes", and Dedekin's central theorem regarding different and ramification tells us moreover that it vanishes with the right order.
Is everything I have said so far correct? If so, is there any relation between the Kähler differentials and the $x$-coordinate of the "tangent vector" to the curve $B$? And if this is the case, how does one connect the definition of the different with the trace-dual and the inverse fractional ideal to this geometric interpretation?
Points where I am stuck: I don't know how to interpret the trace pairing in a geometric way, so I don't know how to interpret trace-dual ideals in a geometric way.
Extra (secondary) question: $B$ may not be generated by a single element over $A$, but $\Omega_{B/A}$ can always be generated by a single element. What is the intuition behind this? I get that if $B=A[\alpha]$ then $\Omega_{B/A}$ is generated by $d\alpha$, but if this is not the case, who is the generator and why can we expect to have a single generator?