Let $E$ be an extension of $N$ by $G$:
$$N \hookrightarrow E \twoheadrightarrow G$$
If $N$ is abelian, then $E$ uniquely defines an action of $G$ on $N$. More generally, it defines a unique class $\chi$ on:
$$\text{Out}(N) = \text{Aut}(N)/\text{Inn}(N)$$
We call the pair $(G, \chi)$ a coupling of $G$ to $N$. Robinson says:
[...] principal aims of the theory of group extensions may be summarized as follows:
(i) to decide which couplings of $G$ to $N$ give rise to an extension of $N$ by $G$;
Unfortunately, I'm failing to find a counter example, a coupling of $G$ to $N$ that does not gives rise to an extension of $N$ by $G$. So far, I've looked only at finite, abelian groups $N$. Can someone point me to such counter example?