DON'T BE AFRAID FROM THE +500 BOUNTY: it doesn't matter that I KNOW this problem is really hard, I put it only because I need to solve the problem really URGENTLY!
Let $n\ge2$; given a kernel $k\in\mathcal{C}^1(\Bbb R^n\setminus\{0\})$ such that
$$|\nabla k(x)|\le|x|^{-n-1}\;\;\; \mbox{for} \;\;x\neq0 \tag{1}$$ $$\int_{|x|=r}k(x)\,d\sigma_n(x)=0\;\;\;\;\;\forall r>0 \tag{2}$$
then I must prove that $$ |k(x)|\le C|x|^{-n}\;\;\;\;\mbox{for}\;\;x\neq 0. $$
Is this still true if the gradient condition $(1)$ is replaced with $$ |k(x+h)-k(x)|\le\frac{|h|^{\alpha}}{|x|^{n+\alpha}}\;\;\;\;\mbox{for}\;\;|h|<\frac12|x| \tag{3} $$ where $0<\alpha\le 1$?
I tried to work with the convolution operator $A_Kf:=K*f$ and taking its Fourier transform to get some information, but I'm totally lost, I don't really know where to start