For the sake of concreteness, let's say that our Hilbert space is the beloved $\mathscr L^2(\Bbb R)$. Suppose that we have $\psi,\phi\in\mathscr L^2(\Bbb R)$, what's the intuitive meaning to a semi-layperson when we say that $\langle\psi,\phi\rangle=0$? (or, for a physicist, $\langle\phi|\psi\rangle=0$)
I should make it clear here that I am very much comfortable with the word orthogonality and its use in Hilbert space theory in general. However, my friends who study physics seem to have a lot of problem trying to understand the "abstract right-angle" in $\mathscr L^2(\Bbb R)$, the fact that $\mathscr L^2(\Bbb R)$ is an infinite dimensional space only makes matter worse. I want to give a satisfactory answer to my friends but I am at lost. Can anyone give me an "intuitive" way to visualize when 2 "states" (I mean functions in $\mathscr L^2(\Bbb R)$) are "at the right-angle" to each other?
Things that I have tried (and why they didn't work):
1.) Give the definition of inner product (added more confusion)
2.) Compare the situation to $\Bbb R^3$ (a function is nothing like an arrow!)
3.) Use $l^2$ as and example ($\dim l^2>3$)