First of all let us observe that a function $r:\mathbb{N} \rightarrow \{0,1\}$ can be easily used to easily "store" all the information that a well-order relation with order-type $\alpha$ will have. For example, let $less:\mathbb{N}^2 \rightarrow \{0,1\}$ denote the well-order relation (for a specific well-order of $\mathbb{N}$ with order-type $\alpha$). Now just define $r(x)=less(first(x),second(x))$, where $first:\mathbb{N} \rightarrow \mathbb{N}$ and $second:\mathbb{N} \rightarrow \mathbb{N}$ are your usual inversion/extraction functions corresponding to a pairing function (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pairing_function).
Regarding the sort of definition you put in quotes, I am sure this can't work. If, instead of $r:\mathbb{N} \rightarrow \{0,1\}$, one works with a slightly different function, it is very easy to see. So first I will try to explain that example, and then a specific example for $r$. Define a function $I:\mathbb{N} \rightarrow \mathbb{N}$ as:
$$I(x)=\left |\{n\,|\,(n<x) \,\,\land \,\,less(n,x)=1 \}\right |$$
Note that the bar sign means the number of elements in the given "finite" set.
Now suppose we are given two different functions $I_1(x)$ and $I_2(x)$ that are formed from different well-order relations (as described above) but with same order-type $\alpha$. Now while comparing the values of two different functions $I_1(x)$ and $I_2(x)$ let $a$ denote the smallest value for which $I_1(a) \neq I_2(a)$. Now we write $I_1 < I_2$ for two such functions iff $I_1(a) < I_2(a)$.
Now somewhat analogous to what you quoted, we could try to define the "smallest" function $I$ that describes the well-order relation for $\alpha$. But a closer examination will show that such a function $I$ is not well-defined. By contradiction, suppose there was such a function $I_{min}$. If $I_{min}$ indeed gives the description of some well-order relation for $\alpha$ then there must be some smallest value $a$ for which $I_{min}(a)\neq 0$. It is easy to see that one can describe a new function $I$ such that $I<I_{min}$ by "setting" it to have the property that $I(a)=0$.
While this isn't "exactly" as you described in quotes, the situation described above is quite similar. And illustrates that generally setting up such a simple property will not work to give a unique function (that "stores" all the information of well-order relation). As for the more specific description you gave in quotes, I think for $\omega \cdot 2$ and bigger values one will start to see that there is no such minimum real number (I might add a specific example later on).