I know this uses inclusion-exclusion which you stated is not what you wanted. I don't know how far you got into it, or if other users know the end result, but I figured this is too long for a comment and thought someone might find it useful.
Let $p$ be the desired probability.
We will calculate the complimentary probability $q=1-p$ that no birthday is attended in at least one day of the year.
Let $C_i$ be the event that no birthday is attended on day $i$.
Then:
$$q=\mathbb{P}\left(\bigcup_{i=1}^{365}C_i\right)$$
Let $[365]=\{1,2,\dots,365\}$.
Using inclusion-exclusion, we can rewrite that as
$$q=\sum_{k=1}^{365}\left({(-1)}^{k-1}\sum_{\substack{I\subset[365]\\|I|=k}}\mathbb{P}(C_I)\right),$$
where $C_I=\cap_{i \in I}C_i$.
Now we need only calculate the $\mathbb{P}(C_I)$; this is much easier.
For each of our $610$ friends, there are $|I|$ days of the year that are forbidden.
Hence
$$\mathbb{P}(C_I)={\left(\frac{365-|I|}{365}\right)}^{610}={\left(1-\frac{|I|}{365}\right)}^{610}$$
and we may write
$$q=\sum_{k=1}^{365}\left({(-1)}^{k-1}\sum_{\substack{I\subset[365]\\|I|=k}}{\left(1-\frac{k}{365}\right)}^{610}\right).$$
This may be further simplified. Indeed, for each $k$ there are $\binom{365}{k}$ sets $I\subset[365]$ with $|I|=k$.
Thus
$$q=\sum_{k=1}^{365}{(-1)}^{k-1}\binom{365}{k}{\left(1-\frac{k}{365}\right)}^{610},$$
and the desired probability is
\begin{align}
p&=1+\sum_{k=1}^{365}{(-1)}^{k}\binom{365}{k}{\left(1-\frac{k}{365}\right)}^{610}\\
&=\hphantom{1+}\,\,\sum_{k=0}^{365}{(-1)}^{k}\binom{365}{k}{\left(1-\frac{k}{365}\right)}^{610}.
\end{align}