Nets emerges from the work of Moore and Smith to understand integrals, i.e., integrals are the great example of nets. For localizing it, imagine you want to calculate
$$\int_a^bf(x)\,dx$$
for a sufficient good function $f$. Now, we consider all pairs of $(\{X_i\}_{i<n},\{\xi_i\}_{i<n})$, where $\{X_i\}_{i<n}$ is a partition in measurable set of $[a,b]$, i.e., a family of sets such that
$$\bigcup_{i<n}X_i=[a,b]$$
and such that for each $i$, we can calc the length of $X_i$, $l(X_i)$ and where $\{\xi_i\}_{i<n}$ a family of points such that for all $i$, $\xi_i\in X_i$; and for each of these pairs $\mathcal{X}=(\{X_i\}_{i<n},\{\xi_i\}_{i<n})$ we consider the sum
$$I(f,\mathcal{X})=\sum_{i<n} f(\xi_i)l(X_i)$$
which is an approximation of our desired integral. The problem is that we need now a way to understand how these sums converge to the desire integral and this can only be done via directed sets and nets. In this way directed sets arise in a natural manner as the only possible way to order these partitions.
In this particular case, the usual order is that
$$\mathcal{X}=(\{X_i\}_{i<n},\{\xi_i\}_{i<n})\geq \mathcal{X'}=(\{X_i'\}_{i<n'},\{\xi_i'\}_{i<n'})$$
whenever for all $i<n$ there is some $j_i<n'$ such that $X_i\subseteq X_{j_i}'$, i.e., the first partition is a refinement of the second one. And here the usual axioms of directed sets are translated in the following way:
- Every partition is a refinement of itself.
- If $\mathcal{X}$ is a refinement of $\mathcal{X}'$ and $\mathcal{X}'$ a refinement of $\mathcal{X}''$, then $\mathcal{X}$ is a refinement of $\mathcal{X}''$.
- Given any two partitions $\mathcal{X}$ and $\mathcal{Y}$, there is always a partition $\mathcal{Z}_{\mathcal{X},\mathcal{Y}}$ which refines both $\mathcal{X}$ and $\mathcal{Y}$.´
If you haven't, take the dfinition of net and check that
$\{I(f,\mathcal{X})\}_\mathcal{X}$
converges effectively to the integral of $f$.
In this sense we can speak that the previous partial sums converge to the integral we want to calculate because there is a sense about what means all partitions that refines the one you take. Furthermore, if we take any partition we can refine it to be a refinement of the given one, which means that we know what means we don't miss any
So, why we need directed sets? Because we need to have a sense of direction to advance so as in the case of the partitions, we have to have a clear notions of what means advancing and this is not only possible with the third axioms. If you omit it, then it is not clear that convergence has the meaning of the net approaching to the point as it would happen if it were not possible for each pair of partitions to build a partition that refines both of them. This is the essence of the direction, giving the sense that the net advance towards to its limit points.
For your example, even though
$$\lim_{n\to\infty} x_{(1,n)}=\infty\text{,}$$
it has sense to say that the net converges because when you are advancing whit one fixed, even if you "arrived" to $(1,\infty)$, you have not advance enough because there are points far beyond to advance. This means that by fixing one, you are not advancing all you can to the given direction because there are pints that you will never pass beyond in this way.
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